Thommo's perm » Fri May 18, 2012 8:04 pm wrote:I have been feeling bad, low, down, since we got the news that KK had been sacked. I have honestly took it badly, but why shouldnt I? He has been part of my life since I was a teenager. He has brought me more pleasure than anyone except my closest family. He has made me laugh and cry, feel great and awful. He has been a constant except when he left us, which was the only time I fell out with him and thought I hated him. But I didnt really because how could I? He was King Kenny, the reddest Red of them all. Player, Player/Manager, Manager, boy to man, Hero to Legend.
And now he's gone, never to return. It is like a death and I am grieving. For those who think I am being dramatic and over-reacting please go and fu'ck yourself because I dont give a sh'it. If you have been supporting LFC as long as I have and been through the highs and lows as I have you will understand what I mean. If you dont, you will never know, so dont let it concern you.
KK came back to save the club he loves and did just that. The problem was that the owners seen him as a threat and a problem, but they had no choice except to give him the job he had wanted for years. The fans won and KK was reinstated. Only problem was he was on sinking sand to begin with. The players he brought in and the money he spent, the teams he selected, the woodwork wierdness, the evra affair, the fa, the media, the lack of support from FSG, the lack of passion, spirit and loyalty from the players, the oppositions goalies giving world class performances: on and on the list went. Add on to this his tunnel vision, stubborness and media unfriendliness it was a recipe for disaster from the start. In reality KK was never going to last until next season because he had to go under the new regimes philosophy. I called it absolutely wrong because I was thinking with my heart instead of my head. Could he have survived if he had done things differently? He wouldnt have done things differently because thats not his way. He is what he is, love him or hate him, what you see is what you get. Like it or lump it. I love him, so Im not going to lump it.
Here are the 7 stages of grief. I think Im on number 3:
1. SHOCK & DENIAL- You will probably react to learning of the loss with numbed disbelief. You may deny the reality of the loss at some level, in order to avoid the pain. Shock provides emotional protection from being overwhelmed all at once. This may last for weeks.
2. PAIN & GUILT- As the shock wears off, it is replaced with the suffering of unbelievable pain. Although excruciating and almost unbearable, it is important that you experience the pain fully, and not hide it, avoid it or escape from it with alcohol or drugs. You may have guilty feelings or remorse over things you did or didn't do with your loved one. Life feels chaotic and scary during this phase.
3. ANGER & BARGAINING- Frustration gives way to anger, and you may lash out and lay unwarranted blame for the death on someone else. Please try to control this, as permanent damage to your relationships may result. This is a time for the release of bottled up emotion. You may rail against fate, questioning "Why me?" You may also try to bargain in vain with the powers that be for a way out of your despair ("I will never drink again if you just bring him back")
4. "DEPRESSION", REFLECTION, LONELINESS- Just when your friends may think you should be getting on with your life, a long period of sad reflection will likely overtake you. This is a normal stage of grief, so do not be "talked out of it" by well-meaning outsiders. Encouragement from others is not helpful to you during this stage of grieving. During this time, you finally realize the true magnitude of your loss, and it depresses you. You may isolate yourself on purpose, reflect on things you did with your lost one, and focus on memories of the past. You may sense feelings of emptiness or despair.
5. THE UPWARD TURN- As you start to adjust to life without your dear one, your life becomes a little calmer and more organized. Your physical symptoms lessen, and your "depression" begins to lift slightly.
6. RECONSTRUCTION & WORKING THROUGH- As you become more functional, your mind starts working again, and you will find yourself seeking realistic solutions to problems posed by life without your loved one. You will start to work on practical and financial problems and reconstructing yourself and your life without him or her.
7. ACCEPTANCE & HOPE- During this, the last of the seven stages in this grief model, you learn to accept and deal with the reality of your situation. Acceptance does not necessarily mean instant happiness. Given the pain and turmoil you have experienced, you can never return to the carefree, untroubled YOU that existed before this tragedy. But you will find a way forward.