by lakes10 » Fri Dec 23, 2011 3:52 pm
good post this from another forum
Originally Posted by Rosie Thorn
I think it's very difficult to know which word to use to describe a group of non-white people.
I'm in my mid forties and was born and bred in south London (although I've lived in Dorset for the last 5 years), I went to school with, socialised with, worked with and lived with people from all nationalities (and religions). My ex husband was (and presumably still is!) mixed race and he hated being called black as he considered it to be 'a life style' not just an adjective. The black community use the term coconut to describe a black person who has a good education, speaks well, has a decent job and generally 'behaves like a white person'. He didn't want to be part of that. I had a couple of Chinese friends who were quite happy to be called Oriental because they felt that distinguished them from Indian sub-continent Asians but other people find Oriental offensive. Some Asians find Indian sub-continent offensive where as others use it to define the bit of Asia that they come from. Then you've got all the Middle eastern countries - they aren't white but neither are they black or Asian.
When I worked as a Civil Servant we used the terms ethnic minority or non white but some of my ethnic minority colleagues disliked those terms.
In every day life there is no need to use colour to describe someone but there are times when you do need a collective term - like when Alan Hansen said there are now lots of 'coloured' players. He was trying to say that whites no longer rule the Premiership. I'm not condoning what he said but I can see his problem and really don't see why people complained.
I try never to offend people and will always apologise if I inadvertently do but I think that terminolgy in this situation is a minefield. (And don't get me started on young black men 'reclaiming' n*****, young Pakistani men 'reclaiming' P*** or my disabled friend 'reclaiming' cripple - how strange that I'll type cripple in full but am too scared of being banned to type out the other two.)
